I could not wait to call the kids in the morning to tell them about their new little sister. Adam and I promised the girls that they, other than mommy, daddy and the doctors, would be the very first to know about their new sibling. It took everything in me not to wake Adam exactly at 7 am to make the call; I just could not contain my excitement. When Adam made the call I was so happy to hear the excitement in the children as well. The girls were excited that the "girl team" had another member.
We could tell almost immediately that I was going to have two very big helpers in Maddie and Chloe. Both were so wonderful and loving with Grace. They loved holding her and singing to her. I can just see them teaching Gracie about tea parties and dollies and all things girl.
As I post this we have had a good week at home and the girls have continued to be absolutely wonderful with Grace. Both have helped with changing diapers (okay they hand me the wipes and the diaper... soon enough I'm sure they will be doing the actual changing...at least we can dream right!?), burping and holding Grace. Each night before they go to bed we give each some time to hold and talk and kiss their newest sister. This little ritual has become quite special to Maddie and Chloe and something they look forward to each night... so much so that they remind us if we do not bring her in their room with us.

Adam did well with Grace at the hospital as well. He was definitely interested in her - almost as much as the buttons that made the bed go up and down :) We had to be quite mindful to let him touch and hold her and just take it all in. We definitely feel that we need to teach him about little babies and how to be gentle instead of guarding her from him and saying "no" to him all of the time. It is exactly what we did when Chloe was born with Maddie and when Adam was born with both girls.
As I am posting this Gracie is already a week and 3 days old. The first week proved to be quite a challenge adjusting Adam to a new baby in the house and not quite the attention he was used to. Even with all of the behavioral training I have received in under and post graduate work I found that all I wanted to do was to give him a "grace" period and just hold him and remind him of how much he is loved. I knew that some of his tantrums were due to just needing more sleep and others were his way of saying..."I need your attention. Will you please play with me?" That is just the thing... he is not able to verbalize his needs yet and so instead he "acted out." For everyone that knows Adam well we know that he is definitely all boy (no doubt about it) but that he is also a sweet and polite little guy. He is a kiddo that craves play... building and knocking down marble runs and blocks, making Thomas the train travel around the tracks while you pretend to be the conductor at all of the stops, Lightning McQueen and Sally in their respective voices... crashing matchbox cars and making big BOOM sounds, racing his dump truck up and down the driveway... and so on. The first week I was quite exhausted and quite honestly, I did not want to be my typical "behaviorist self". I just wanted my guy to be happy and to feel loved and attended to. Grace had days and nights confused and we had very little sleep at night. I also came down with Mastitis on Sunday which set me back a little. Luckily the antibiotic kicked in and I felt better by Tuesday. On Tuesday night Grace slept much better during the night and we were able to get one good 4 hour stretch... what a difference a little sleep can make!! Already, since yesterday, we have noticed a marked improvement in Adam's behavior. He is back on his nap schedule and Adam and I and the girls are responding to his "Please play with me" requests. He is still incredibly sweet with "Baby Grace" as he calls her and is still wanting to hold her and "play" trains with her. As I said from the beginning, I think he loves his new little sister greatly I just think he wants and expects the same amount/type of attention from the adults as he is used to . I know this will all work out but it wouldn't be me if I didn't take to heart the feelings of my little guy.

As Adam and I have discussed a lot this week we just need to make sure all of the children are getting some quality us time and that he and I are in tune with their needs. We are adjusting to life as a family of six and we remind ourselves every night how absolutely lucky we are to have such a beautiful and healthy family.